Saturday, April 3, 2010

Dilemma

My daughter is only 12, in the seventh grade. As I've said, she's fairly sheltered in terms of what we expose her to (no rated R movies, or explicit music, definitely no MTV). But I have had all the sex talks with her, and when we decided she was going to attend OCHSA, we had some heavy conversations about sexual orientation. OCHSA is an arts school, heavily liberal, and I knew that many of her classmates would be openly gay. No big deal, but I made sure she was prepared in term of understanding it and being open-minded.

Today one of her friends - not a current schoolmate - admitted to Hannah that she may be bisexual. This friend said she often looked at girls and thought, "Wow. She's hot."

If this had been a girl from OCHSA, I don't think I'd give it a second thought. Or maybe I would council Hannah on what she could say to her friend - be understanding, tell the friend to discuss it with her parents, assure her that many teens have these feelings. But this friend comes from a very religious family, and I know that homosexuality is a big no-no with them.

Hannah knew it, too. She asked her friend, "Isn't it against your religion?" The friend responded yes, which was why she couldn't talk to her parents about it.

So what do I do? Not that there's much I can do, but do I just leave it alone? Do I give Hannah some special advice to give to her friend? Do I pretend the conversation never took place?

Maybe for now I leave it alone, and if it comes up again, then take some action. I'm at a total loss. Any advice?

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